It’s funny, but sometimes the smallest moment can change your mindset.
A moment that is insignificant in many ways, I had been in the down cycle of energy, that made me more reflective which is never a bad thing, but the picture seemed more pessimistic than optimistic and although we were getting by I had been feeling stuck and at times lost. The visions had been replaced with worries about how to balance everything. I was taking on stresses of the future that hadn’t even started yet. How do we balance the van and Sunday dinners? Can I get a pitch? Will we be able to do an event? How do I buy equipment for van with a lack of funds? Etc etc
Then the universe stepped in, it gave me a little nudge. It’s time I share with you my dream, the goal that for me is the epitome of life. For years now I have wanted to have a house by the beach, the kind of place where I can stand on a balcony and look at the wonders of nature, smell the sea and most important hear the waves crashing. That noise is the purest soundtrack of nature. To be able to drink a coffee and watch the sun set over the horizon from the comfort of my own home, that is the perfect life for me.
The problem has always been the vision of the house, I couldn’t picture “my house”. So one morning a couple of weeks ago, prepping for a mid week meal delivery, the frustration was building, not for any reason but when you are on a down cycle it makes you feel better to get grumpier and grumpier. I had just fallen out with the bin to put it in context. WHEN YOU WANT TO BE GRUMPY, YOUR BRAIN WILL ACTIVELY SEEK OUT MORE TRIGGERS. After a couple of weeks of seeking these triggers, I was able to feel sorry for myself whilst being a marythr to my own development.
The human brain is a phenomenal evolution. The reason we see more negative in the world when we feel down is due to the reticular activating system. (RAS). This wonder of nature will subconsciously find more triggwers of what you want to see. If you are angry ,it will pick up signals of things in your life to make you more angry. The important quality of it though is it doesn’t know what is good or bad! So if you focus your mind to look for things to make you grow, the RAS picks up on more triggers for you to notice. It’s an amazing tool that evolution has given to humans but it holds great power. This is the science behind law of attraction. RAS is the reason that if you are trying to lose weight it is better to say “I’m now a healthy eater” instead of “I’m on a diet” as the first tricks the brain to look for healthy food triggers, the latter focuses on what you can’t have, so you will see it everywhere.
It is important to say though we all have blips, anyone who knows me will attest I am “Mr positive” with an almost annoying (ok very annoying) ability to find the positives. The kind of positivity that has quoted in the past “of course Nazis were pure evil, but the Indiana Jones films wouldn’t be as good without them” . Anyway I digress, the customer asked if we could deliver to a different address to normal, no problem. As the country lanes got narrower, the top of the road had a sign “to the beach”, as I crept down the single track looking for numbers I found the house. The moment I stepped out the car I could hear the waves crashing and smell the ozone filled my nostrils and as I approached the house the view opened up over the cliffs and it unveiled the most beautiful beach in the world. I have known and been to this beach before, it’s my favourite beach. Not just of the area but in the world and I have been to a good amount. This one is perfection.
Taking a moment to appreciate mother nature at her finest, like a shot of adrenaline there was a reset in my brain. As stated in previous blogs, the best place in the world to clear your head is a walk on the beach. Being a landlocked city boy, my experiences of beaches involved donkey rides and amusements but since I moved 18 years ago to a city on the coast, the collection of beaches have left me awe struck every single time how beautiful they are. A quick delivery later and I felt revitalised, then as I turned the car around I saw it, the dream became a vision, it became bricks and mortar, the house I never knew existed emerged from the foggy concept of “a house on the beach” to a pure high definition quality structure in front of me.
The name of the house is now etched in my brain forever, it was as if a bolt of electricity shot through my body. I WAS ACCOUNTABLE FOR MAKING THIS HAPPEN, NO EXCUSES. A giant smile took over my face and I drove back up the single track I stopped for another look. It even had a fricking rainbow over it !! . Is this romantic ideals? , maybe . Is it a massive dream? Yes. The house must be valued at a couple of million which seems like the top of Everest compared to where life is now. But it is at times like this that all those early mornings, reading and self development teachings flood into your brain. My sub conscious didn’t say “you’ll never get that”, or “just be happy with what you have” or “that’s for someone else”. Fuck no. It said “if your dreams don’t scare you, they aren’t big enough” and “if you can hold it in your mind, you can hold it in your hand”.
Without a destination in your mind, you can never know where you are going. You will just amble around kind of hoping. Am I still a million miles away from that house? Yes, but here is the difference now, ever step I make from that moment of clarity is in the right direction. It takes me forward on that path. Will I get my dream? I don’t know, we will see what the universe has in store but I’ll keep stepping . The GPS is on, it may take me places I’ve not been but they are opportunities to learn and grow. You can only grow by being put in uncomfortable positions.
Growth comes from being in new situations, lessons come from failing, hence why it is ridiculous as a society we fear it so much. To my future problems that had me down I say ” I’ll see you soon and I’ll figure it out when the time comes.” For now the growth mindset is back. Push yourself to failure, at the gym (which I’m back at, but made my personal trainer my brother in law for no excuses) you push your muscles till they fail, then they grow stronger. Of course it is uncomfortable, there is pain and frustration (I spent two days walking like John Wayne) but that muscle comes back stronger, it’s that logic that pushes development physically and mentally.
Direction is everything my friends, hurdles and pitfalls will happen but we keep stepping. Be grateful for what you have and where you are, sometimes take a moment to see how far you have come. And if you feel a bit lost well, it happens to everyone, even the most annoyingly positive of us. My advice is find a destination for your GPS.
Happy eating
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